feeling a little hurt

I have been looking for a new couch for our Family Room. I think in my last post I told you how much I HATE the couch we currently have. It was Dan's when we first met, and he got it from his (then) friends the Special K's. I am pretty sure knowing them as I did that it was used when they got it, so I know it's pretty old. It's got a tear in the back that the cats have enlarged so they can hide inside and it's so low to the ground I need a good shove just to get up off of it. I feel like my butt is already sitting on the floor when I sit in it, and the cushions are so smashed they are pancakes. I always put a blanket over it when I sit, because I am afraid of what might come up between the cracks.

In past times I have even had small blankets shoved between the cushions and the back of it, just to keep from falling through. When Dan and I first met, it wasn't bad. And when I came home from the hospital after heart surgery it was the only place I could lay comfortably. But now, IT HAS GOT TO GO!

So I went KSL shopping. For those of you not familiar with this phrase, the local TV channel has a website that has a classifieds ad site. It's free to post stuff and you can find some seriously good buys on it. For years I have coveted our friends furniture. Andy & Stef have the sweetest couch, love seat and chair/ottoman furniture I have ever sat in. I love their furniture. I love to go to their house just so I can sit on this furniture. but alas, they paid a pretty penny for it, and I could not justify that price. (even if I could find it in the store now. it's a few years old).

So I did the next best thing and looked on KSL for something similar. Now of Course I didn't find anything that even matches their stuff, but I found what looked like to be a very nice set. Couch, Chair and ottoman.  Perfect because that will fit in my family room.  The price was $400.00 with the ad claiming it was in perfect condition and not that old. I showed it to Dan who said it was nice and he liked it. I asked him to call on it, and he did. We offered them an extra $50.00 to deliver it to us, and the seller said they would.

After that call Dan put the phone down and I mentioned how excited I was even though it was $450.00. Suddenly his tone changed and he accused me of spending money like it was water.

What?!?  I know I tend to get a bit spendy, but I've never gone too overboard, and usually whatever I get is for the good of the house. I was really hurt by this. Of course it put me on the defensive. I mean we just got an estimate of the fence from one place and it was $6,000.00.  I estimated $2,000.00. So that isn't happening. Dan said I could put $10,000.00 of the trust money towards the house. I will do what I can to get the least price possible.  but I was really damaged by his comment. I know he wants to make sure we have money to retire on, but This house is our retirement. It's an investment. If something should happen to me, Dan may have to sell the house. The more improvements I make, the better price he can ask.

We got the couches, and I will continue to shop for fences. I told him that if I can't get a good price on fence, then we will do a spot job on the fence we've got and be happy with that.

But jeez, talk about making me paranoid about spending money on our house.....